Remember “for worse,” “in sickness,” and “for
poorer”? These
commitments are not meant to slide off the tongue loosely. Remember the day: dressed in the most elegant
outfit, hair beautifully fixed, clean shavin’, everyone gazing upon you and the
love of your life. At that moment, the
vows spoken may find it difficult to truly sink in past the thickness of love
in the environment. We cannot fathom the
truth behind such vows due to most of such absent in the dating phase.
Post honeymoon, a glimpse of the “for worse”
may begin as living quarters change, life begins together and selfish ways must
cease. Some days “til death due us part”
seems impossible. I had no idea marriage
could present such difficult times. I
mean, the couples in the Hallmark movies never experienced such emotions as
jealousy, anger, sadness, disappointment or defeat when it came to
relationships, right?
To top the “for worse” off, “for poorer” wedged
its way into the equation. Now, this one
is totally in the eye of the beholder. Interpretation
of poor remains dependent on one’s idea of living conditions. Simplicity can live on very little. While the other end of the spectrum demands
much more.
Oh, and the “for sickness”. . .yeah, been
there, done that and still doing that!
My poor husband has endured various sickness with me, such as migraines,
seasonal illnesses, procedure recovery, eating disorder, etc. Thankfully, he stays healthy and cares for
the home while I am down and out. On the
flip side of the coin, the enemy uses such difficult times to create a wedge
between us; I feel he doesn’t understand the pain or difficult time while he
runs ragged taking care of everything.
This leaves two exhausted individuals unable to think clearly.
Marriage is tough to say the least. No warning can be provided to love struck
individuals prior to taking the plunge.
The commitments discussed above have no emergency plan in place. No drill can be practiced to ensure
survival. One thing remains the key to
making it through each day no matter the circumstances: placing God between you
and your spouse. See, my husband and I
did not know such information prior to marriage and not until 5 years post
ceremony did we begin to get it!
Needless to say, the first 5 years were not pretty. Then, we found the missing factor that
assured joy, laughs, survival, good memories, etc.
Do we get it right every day? NO!
But, we know where to turn when we feel our feet slipping. We know Who is missing when times seem
impossible to endure. We know where to
look for advice, guidance, answers and the emergency plan!
Marriage is tough to say the least. But, God understands and He loves you so
much! You are worth it and His child
deserves the best treatment from the spouse chosen. You are worth it and God intends for two to
become one with love exemplified daily (read 1 Corinthians 13 over and over and
over)! Did I mention, you are worth it! Be you, love you and love your spouse the way
God intended! Live up to the commitments
made that day (and you better remember the date ;-)
Marriage is tough. . .BUT,
marriage is awesome. . .
Live life. . .One Day at a
Time
Sheree Craig
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